Ten years ago, I was still reeling from the realization that I had wasted four years of my life getting a degree and training for a job I didn’t want. It had been three years since I got my BA in Mathematics and Teaching. I wasn’t teaching. I was working at a health insurance company. The work was simple enough and they didn’t mind if I listened to books on tape while I processed claims. Eventually, I ran out of music and books and I became bored.
I was such a different person back then. I still believed that I had to do everything with my husband to be a good wife. I still believed that I needed to work for someone else in order to be a contributing member of society. I even believed that I had to sacrifice my dreams for security. It was a long and scary road, but all of those beliefs have been tossed out the window within the span of these ten years.
If I saw the Laura Moncur from 1996, what would I tell her?
You can have private time and still be a good wife.
You can be self-employed and still be a good citizen.
You can be a writer and still be secure.
It’s all possible, you just need to work dilligently toward it every day and don’t get distracted by worries about money or whether other people will be proud of you.
Would I have listened? I don’t know.