This is a time of New Year’s Resolutions. We make small promises to ourselves, but it’s January 3rd. Have you already considered giving up on your resolution?
Whenever I am tempted to do what I told myself I wasn’t going to do, the best thing for me is to sit down with a piece of paper and just start writing. I write about whatever is going on in my mind, even if it seems to have nothing to do with going against my resolution. I just write and write until I feel like I’ve come to an understanding.
For me, this is the “reason of the resolution.” Dieting, not smoking, exercising more, and staying sober are all resolutions that are easy to throw away if we don’t know the reasons why we want to follow them.
It’s not about dieting or exercising more, it’s about the way it feels to pull on those size four jeans. It’s about the way they look at you when you are fit and strong. It’s about being able to climb a flight of stairs without getting out of breath. It’s about having enough energy to keep up with whatever comes your way.
It’s not about smoking, it’s about smelling good. It’s about being able to smell and taste food again. It’s about being able to breathe easily. It’s about staying away from a socially undesirable habit. It’s about never having to see that look of disgust on your lover’s face ever again.
It’s not about staying sober. It’s about how it feels to be in control at all times. It’s about never having to apologize for doing something that you don’t even remember. It’s about having the extra money in your pocket instead of giving it all to the liquor store. It’s the feeling of knowing that you can conquer anything.
If you are thinking about quitting on your New Year’s Resolution, give yourself an hour and a stack of paper and write out the reasons for your resolution. Tell yourself all the things that following your resolution will bring you and how they will make you feel. After you have a list like that in your hands, you might feel differently about quitting on yourself.