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Hello. I have an on-going discussion about the meaning of being "lady-like". It seems to be a lost art, and so the exact meaning is unclear. Does anyone have any thoughts on the meaning, to be "lady like"?

And while your at it, how important do you think it is for this day and age, besides having some jobs that may require it?

Your imput would be much appreciated.

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No offense intended, but this is something i with a loathing. Sure, people should act with a general level of manners, but i think being 'lady-like' is going too far.

Ive always seen it as being a very false act. Pretending to be kind and courteous just because your expected too. I undertstand that if you truly have respect for someone then extended manners can be considered appropriate, but to act for the simple sake of wanting to be considered 'lady-like' is something that really ticks me off.

hope i didnt offend you, but thats just the way i feel about it.

None taken.

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Not very unless you are a part of the upperer classes (i.e. are titled) but in that case I guess you wouldn't need to ask.

Seriously I think, like Nemesis, that it will pretty much be a false act. You be better being yourself.

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So, do you think this is how our generation generally feels?

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Don't walk behind me, I may not lead. Don't walk in front of me, I may not follow. Just walk beside me and be my friend. -Albert Camus

Yes

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I don't think that being 'lady-like' is all that important. Sure it has some influence on how people think about you for a first impression, but if you let people actually get to know you then it doesn't matter at all. Thats my view of the issue Halliberry.

Thank you guys.

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Act like a lady just means to be polite and civil. The male equivalent is to be a gentleman.

On a related note, I don't like female sports teams being called ladies. Call them women. I want them to play like women, not ladies.

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Sigsfried, interesting you relate it to the upper classes because when someone acts lady-like or gentlemanly they're considered to be acting with class--kind of the generic equivalent. I haven't ever thought of it that way but it fits.

The edit mentioned below relates to a spelling error not a change in content.

Well just look at the phrase lady-like lady is techniacally a title (married to a Lord I think) so it means behaving in the manner of a lady (a titled person).
Further more theese kind of things today are only valued by the Upper classes anyway.

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I think everyone should aspire to be respectful and polite but I agree with everyone else; acting "lady-like" is typically putting on a false persona and it is unecessary.

In my view, the term lady-like is the female to "gentleman". It is simply a possibly false way of acting and speaking that was put in place for the same reason many other formalities have been put in place. It is sign of respect for those around you, and also whatever it is you may be doing. It is in no way how a modern lady should act all the time, as that would be out of place in today's society. She should be courteous and civil, but not lady like in the manner I assume you guys are talking. I look at acting Lady-like the same way I do bowing, wearing belts, and calling my instructor by his title in my martial arts class. I do not know exactly why we do it, because order would be kept all the same without all those things, but tradition is HUGE. I just believe that being lady-like and gentlemanly is a lost art that should be retrieved by the middle and lower classes in the case of a fancy night out, or just because. We need to keep some of our past... But that's just my view.

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being ladylike is the pride of every woman, it's not pretense as the average mind would say but simply being well mannered and cultured and at the same time having the strength of a woman

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being lady-like is simply being polite, not snobbish or dependent (damsile in destess like) but rather showing respeckt, having class ext.

Edit: hay did my post count go down:?:

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